How to survive a long distance relationship

Long distance relationships are hard, and if you’ve ever been in one – you know that even that sentence is an understatement. Being in a normal relationship requires you to make room for a significant other in your day, being in a long distance relationship on the other hand, requires you to flip your whole life around. But again, if you’ve ever been in one, you know that they’re so extremely rewarding.

 

I’ve been in a long distance relationship for almost four years. Yes, there were a few breaks involved, and no, not all of it has been distance so far. Dylan and I had the amazing opportunity to live together for four months last summer, which was a dream come true. Aside from that it’s been a few visits here and there, and endless FaceTime dates. You see, we currently live 4185 miles away from each other, but we’re planning on closing the distance as soon as we can.

Our tiny little studio apartment that we only got to live in for a summer.
Our tiny little studio apartment that we only got to live in for a summer.

1. Trust, Honesty, Commitment 

The holy trinity, if you will. Both you and your partner have to be completely honest at all times, committed and dedicated to making your relationship work, and most importantly, you have to trust each other. It takes a while to build up trust, but lucky for you, time is something you have plenty of when you’re in a long distance relationship. Doubts will only drive you crazy, and push your partner far, far away from you.

2. Communication

Fights and conflicts are a normal part of any relationship, and long distance relationships are no exception. The only issue is that you can’t kiss and make up, you have to talk through literally everything. Communication is key when it comes to preventing big blow ups, as well as working through them. Know your wants and needs, and make sure to clearly communicate them to your partner. On the other hand, be accommodating when your partner approaches you with a need or complaint.

3. Dating (FaceTime, Skype, etc)

Just because you’re a billion miles away from your loved one, doesn’t mean that you aren’t dating. FaceTime has been a life-saver for my relationship. While we can’t snuggle up and watch a movie, we do get to come home to each other, talk about our days, and laugh about whatever is amusing us at the moment. Due to work and a six hour time difference, we only get about three days of FaceTime a week, but even that’s enough to keep the romance alive.

4. Texting 

Similarly, we text every day, throughout the day. Good morning and goodnight texts are a given, but random selfies from time to time are the sweetest. Make your partner feel loved, wanted, and missed. It’ll strengthen your relationship more than you’ll ever know.

5. Talk about the future

The thing about being so far away, is that conversations tend to be more meaningful than “what’s up?”. Let your imagination run wild, and dream up an incredible future with your loved one. A cabin in the woods, freshly baked bread, a co-owned company, a little family-run coffee shop. Dreams begin by actually dreaming, and Dylan and I have discovered things we never even knew we wanted to do. Don’t be scared to get a little silly, it’s the best thing you can do in a long distance relationship.

Cheeky little tumblr interaction from way before we fell in love. :)
Cheeky little tumblr interaction from way before we fell in love. 🙂

6. Plan

There is nothing worse than not knowing when you’ll see each other next. If you are able to, book tickets and count down the days until you can put your phone away for more than an hour at a time. There is nothing sweeter than waking up one day and knowing that you’re about to pick up your loved one from the airport, or run into their arms as they wait for you. If you can’t make plans right now, just be patient, it’ll work out.

The first photo we ever took together.
The first photo we ever took together.

7. Embrace “me time”

It probably seems like “me time” is the last thing you need right now, but somewhere down the line you’ll realize that this distance has made you stronger, more independent, and heaps more romantic. Just make sure you don’t take life too seriously.

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Do you have any experience with long distance relationships? Is this a topic you’d like me to post more about?  Let me know down in the comments!
-acrushonlife

14 Comments

    1. I can also be quite needy, but with practice I’ve kind of learned to trust and let go a bit. 🙂
      Thanks for checking out my blog – I’m about to follow you on bloglovin! xx

  1. I used to love being in a long distance relationship but every single one of them ended on a bad note 🙁

    -kimberleyjessica.blogspot.co.uk

    1. Awww I’m sorry! It really depends on so many factors, and sometimes it’s better for them to end. Lots of love xx

  2. This is so lovely and wow that is major long distance compared to us and for so much longer! So happy to hear that it’s worked out for the best for you two and you continue to grow with each other! We’ve been blessed to be able to move in together after a year and a half – we wish you all the best! This was such a lovely read and we’ve actually done one very similar on the past! Thanks for sharing!

    Jessica & James
    Foodandbaker.co.uk

    1. Thank you for your sweet comment! <3 Yeah, I feel like when it comes to long distance, we've done more than our fair share. I can't wait to make my way back to him, hopefully once and for all! I wish you guys heaps of happiness together! xx

  3. Such a lovely post.
    I was just randomly browse things about long distance relationship, because i just start that things couple weeks ago. And it’s so hard to adapt with all the new things.
    But I found this post, and I was like wow, this is great 🙂

    1. Awww thank you so much! Long distance relationships are hard, but they’re so worth it if you find the right person. Good luck <3 🙂

  4. I really enjoyed this post, specially the part of you two living together for four months, I just did the same with my fiancé this past summer, it was only three months, but still, as you said: it was a dream come true.

    Any reasons why you can not live together yet? ^ ^

    Adi&Yan

  5. Yes- I’ve been there! My now husband and I met in college but he’s from NY and I’m from PA. Not that far apart, but not close either. Then he went to Ecuador for a year, then another place for another year, then moved to where I am! You are right- you do need all of those components- communication, honesty. Trust. And when you do actually get together it’s the best!! You guys seems to have made it through a lot- best wishes!!
    XX
    Jen

    1. Thank you so much for your comment, Jen! It really is such an interesting experience, as hard as it may be. We have some exciting plans on the horizon, and I can’t wait to be back in his arms! I wish you and your husband lots of love and happiness :)xx

      Srna

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