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Solo coffee dates: reasons why you SHOULD

February 1, 2017

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Do you have a habit of going out for coffee, tea, or even a meal by yourself? Ever since moving to a brand new city, this has become one of my favorite things to do. By nature, I’m outgoing – by character, I’m an introvert. Coffee shops provide the perfect space for me to be around people, all while spending time with myself, by myself.

If you’ve ever felt awkward sitting by yourself, I’m here to share some reasons why you shouldn’t feel awkward and why taking yourself out on coffee dates is a healthy, amazing habit.

1. You can get a lot of work done.

Coffee shops are amazing for getting work done. Bring your laptop along, or if that’s not your thing, bring a notebook along. Need to read a book or an article? Those are welcome too!

2. Your self-confidence grows.

Who’s that cool person hanging out alone, looking cool as heck? It’s you!! I’m not sure about you, but when I used to be anxious about going to coffee shops alone, I never looked at a person sitting alone and thought they were a loner. I thought they were super cool. To be quite honest with you, I feel cool as a cucumber when I hang out by myself.

3. You get to meet strangers.

This one is quite counter-intuitive because you’re going to be sitting there alone, but it’s totally a thing. Ever since I started taking myself out on coffee dates, people have been striking up conversations with me left and right. You’re way less intimidating when you’re sitting by your lonesome, and that could lead to meeting some amazing humans.

4. Thinking time.

A change of surroundings is the perfect excuse to figure out whatever thoughts are jumbled up in your head. I’ve written the best material at coffee shops, and I’ve solved some of my trickiest life issues while brainstorming over a yummy cappuccino.

5. Charge your batteries.

Whether you’re an introvert, or an extrovert – coffee shops are the ideal place to charge your batteries. It’s the perfect place to be alone and surrounded by people at the same time. Upon leaving  find myself energized and ready to take on whatever task is ahead of me.

Tell me, is this something you ever do? If not, are you considering going out for a solo coffee date?



Till next time,


Uncategorized Weight loss

Losing 75 lbs – 10 Things Nobody Tells You

November 3, 2016

As some of you may know, I have lost a total of 75 lbs in the last five years. My weight loss process has been slow and steady, but effective. I am still on my journey, and I constantly try to treat my body with love and respect. I will share more of my journey in the future, but for now, here are ten things nobody told me before I started my weight loss.



  1. Starting is the absolute hardest part of the whole journey. Of course, no one would tell you that when you’re trying to start a weight loss journey, but it’s true. There is nothing harder than getting into the mindset that your life is about to change forever.
  2. You will fail, and fall off the wagon, and binge eat – AND IT’S ALL OKAY. The key to actually losing weight is that you get back up every time you fall down.
  3. There will be nights when you feel like you will never hit your goal. You will cry and scream (or do whatever you do when you’re in despair). Let yourself go through that because as soon as the sun comes up the next day you’ll feel a hundred times better.
  4. The first diet you try probably will not work for you. The second and third might not either. Different bodies lose weight in different ways, and there is something out there that will work for you. Keep searching.
  5. Crash diets will not work. Okay, maybe people have told you this one before, but we never listen, do we?
  6. You can’t do it all at once, and you can’t be on a “diet” for a whole year straight. I’ve come across a few people that have been able to pull that off, and more power to them. Most of us, unfortunately, can not. It’s okay to take breaks, have a cheat day, do whatever you need to do. Just try not to binge and ruin all of your efforts.
  7. If you stick to a boring diet, you will fail. Oranges for lunch every day? Plain chicken for dinner 6 times a week? Say “bye bye” to your diet. You’ll last four days at most and hate yourself after. Make sure that you eat varied meals. The key to sticking with a certain meal plan is to prevent yourself from getting bored of it!
  8. If you stick to a plan that works for long enough, you will see results. The moment you see those results will be the moment you gain HEAPS of motivation to keep pushing. Nothing motivates more than loose clothing.
  9. People will often tell you not to compare yourself to others. Forget that, and seek out photos of people that have made amazing progress and are currently where you would like to be. Study them, look at that, dream about how it’ll feel when you finally hit those numbers.
  10. Remember that this journey is about you. It’s not just about looking better in your clothes, it’s also about feeling better and being healthier. Every time you have a successful week, treat yourself to a non-food reward. Get a mani-pedi, buy a new item of clothing, take yourself to the cinema. Treat yourself for the amazing work you’re doing.

    Left: me, not even close to my highest weight. Right: me, about a month ago.

Are you on a weight loss journey, or are you thinking about starting one? Let me know in the comments below!


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