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Before and after photos: motivational or damaging? Blogmas day 5

December 12, 2017

Let me tell you something about my problematic past when it comes to weight loss. Are you ready? I used to spend hours looking up before and after weight loss photos of people and used them as the ultimate motivation to lose weight. If this is something you spend your time doing, I urge you to stop because these before and after photos are so damaging to each and every one of us.

Now, you may say “but Srna, you’ve posted before and after photos of your own weight loss, aren’t you being hypocritical?”. You are indeed correct, such photos have been plastered on my blog and my social media platforms in the past, and I have no intention of hiding this fact. But hypocritical? That I wouldn’t quite agree on. See, in the past year I’ve dug deep into my relationship with weight loss, body image, and food, and I’ve grown and developed to an extent where I can clearly see how hurtful these images can be for myself, my loved ones, and for strangers on the internet.

 

 

Reasons why I’m vowing to never post before and after photos:

 

  • The notion that being skinny is better than being fat can very kindly (or not kindly at all) be thrown out the window. These images portray us in a way that suggests “hey, I was fat and sad, and now I’m skinny and happy”. Having been in those before and after photos, I can promise you that skinny does not equal happy, and fat does not equal sad.
  • Scrolling through before and after weight loss photos made me feel unworthy, and created so much loathing deep within my soul, that I felt like if I didn’t start a diet or a weight loss plan the next morning, I would be the ultimate failure. Yes, these photos “motivated” me to lose weight, simply by bullying me into feeling gross in my own body.
  • These images quite literally pin all of our human worth onto physical attributes. I’m so much happier not hating my body at its current size, than I was at my skinniest, desperately hoping to see one less pound on the scale.
  • My relationship with food was so wrecked when I preoccupied myself with these photos, that I’m still to this day working on mending it. Food is not, and never will be, the enemy. No entire food group is evil, and no diet plan will work for you long-term.

 

Things you can do instead of looking up before and after weight loss photos:

 

  • Fill your social media feed with the wonderful humans that spread body positivity, and body acceptance at every size. You can learn to love your body the way it is at this very moment, I promise you.
  • On the other hand, go ahead and get rid of any accounts that trigger you into disliking yourself. Self-hatred really isn’t worth the hassle.
  • Stand in front of the mirror and give yourself a compliment, no matter how hard it is to do so. Touch your curves in a loving way. Be gentle and kind to yourself.
  • Make yourself a meal filled with beautiful and nutritious fruits and vegetables. I refuse to believe that apples will make you fat, or that carrots have too much sugar. Indulge in the nutrients that these beauties hold, and nourish your body with them.
  • Do you feel like your body needs a certain food? Chocolate, pizza, chips? Have them, and know that you can have them whenever you would like. Adapting to this mindset will keep you from binging because you can quite literally have these items for breakfast, lunch, and dinner if you wish. Not restricting and listening to my body has been a life-changing journey for me.

What are your thoughts on this trend? Let me know in the comments below!

Srna

body positivity Fashion

Plus size fashion rules: here’s why they’re BS

March 3, 2017

Fashion rules for all of the plus size humans in the world:

Don’t wear horizontal stripes.

Don’t show your arms.

Don’t wear crop tops.

Don’t wear tight shirts.

Don’t you dare wear bold patterns.

Don’t wear thick and bulky clothing.

Do try to cover up as much as humanly possible.

Dear whoever made up these rules,

You must be out of your mind.

I’m done staining department store dressing rooms with my tears because nothing fits according to any of your rules.

I’m so fed up with finding pieces of clothing I love and then being too scared to wear them out “in case I get judged”.

I have let so many amazing fashion finds go in the past because they were “too short” or “too tight’, and they would reveal my ghastly body to the world.

I’m over it.

I’m also 23 years old, and I’ve been dealing with being overweight for over 15 of those years. I’ve fought my battles long and hard, and at this moment I feel absolutely liberated. My body is my temple, and it’s incredible.

If you’re younger, feeling hopeless, or just haven’t come to the incredible realization that you too can wear whatever the frack you want – well, girl (or dude) I am here for you!

The crop top.

What’s that, a jiggly belly? Stretch marks?! DEAR LORD HELP US ALL. Truth be told, I love crop tops. See, little Srna? It’s not all so gloomy. Crop tops allow me to be the trouble maker that I am (hay hay t-shirt reference). No but seriously, get over yourself and let me parade my belly and tiger stripes around like the badass that I am.

Horizontal stripes.



Now listen, your girl is far from flat-chested – but why should that stop me from wearing horizontal stripes? I’M GOING TO WEAR ALL THE STRIPES – ENJOY!

Bold patterns? Bare arms?

C-C-C-COMBOOOOOO. How cute is this shirt though?

 

Bulky sweaters? Thick materials?

Excuse me while I stay warm during winter in 700 layers of sweaters. Bye Felicia!

Bottom line is, I’m tired of feeling restricted – and this is the year that I take back control of my body. My body is absolutely fantastic, can you see all that it can do? It allows me to live my life to the fullest each and every day, and I’m not about to put a brown potato sack over it just so that it doesn’t offend society.

I urge you to wear what you love. The more you consciously step out of your comfort zone, the more comfortable you’ll become with your awesome bod. Pinky promise! So next time you put on an amazing outfit and feel tempted to change out of it at the last minute, grab your phone, your keys, and bolt right out the door. Enjoy your day or your evening, all while looking absolutely fantastic.

Thanks to dia.com for reaching out with the inspo for this blog post!

Until next time,
Srna

body positivity

My body is making me miserable: now what?

February 16, 2017

You’re laying in your bed and you’re squishing the parts of your body that you think are “wrong”, like the love handles, your thighs, your belly. You imagine what your arms would feel like without the extra flab, or what your belly would look like if it wasn’t so hollow. Heck, you feel your bones poking out and try to push them back in. Tears pool up in your eyes and you just want to scream.

Been there?

Most of us have. I know I’ve felt this way more than a handful of times.

Whether you feel too large or too small, we all have days where we wrap our minds in a blanket of self-loathing and are unable to do anything productive. I’ve searched the internet high and low for for words to make me feel less alone.. less trapped.
So, as someone who consciously strives to be body positive, knowing how much I struggle with these days, I figured that it would be a good idea to tell you what I do to feel less miserable.

  1.  I drink more water than I have in the past week. I don’t do this to lose weight, I do it to cleanse my body. We often feel icky when we’re dehydrated, or just plain bloated. Water with lemon makes me feel particularly clean and more settled. It straight up feels like a cleaning detergent for your insides (don’t consume actual cleaning detergent pretty please).
  2.  I get on my yoga mat and I stretch. This helps me feel closer to my body. It reminds me that my body is my home, and allows me to feel centered. I feel each muscle stretching and this usually calms my nerves.
  3.  I do anything I can to keep from emotional eating that day. Water? Check. Coffee? Check. Buckets of tea? Yep. More importantly though, I never let myself go hungry because that’ll make me a million times more miserable. I strive to find a balance.
  4. I talk to a friend. To be more specific, I talk to a good friend. I even sit and talk to my mom. Find someone that cares about you and tell them how you feel. Even if they don’t have much to say, they will listen and this will allow you to let go of a bit of that negativity you’ve pent up.
  5. I remember that I’m able to alter my body. I can lose weight if I want to, and so can you. Want to gain weight? You can also do that. All we need to figure out is a healthy way to do so.
  6. I also remind myself that my body is capable of doing so many incredible things. I can walk, I can lift babies that I love, I can hold hands, I can give the best freaking hugs in the world. Thanks body!
  7.  I look at body-positive individuals on the internet and I feed off their kick-ass energy. If I can’t feel good about my body at the moment, I’m happy that they can.

It’s so easy to feel worthless, but remember that this day too shall pass. You’re worthy of so much love, and I hope that you’ll eventually learn to shower yourself and your body with it.

Stay strong, stay lovely, keep that chin up.

Srna