You’re laying in your bed and you’re squishing the parts of your body that you think are “wrong”, like the love handles, your thighs, your belly. You imagine what your arms would feel like without the extra flab, or what your belly would look like if it wasn’t so hollow. Heck, you feel your bones poking out and try to push them back in. Tears pool up in your eyes and you just want to scream. Been there? Most of us have. I know I’ve felt this way more than a handful of times.
Whether you feel too large or too small, we all have days where we wrap our minds in a blanket of self-loathing and are unable to do anything productive. I’ve searched the internet high and low for for words to make me feel less alone.. less trapped.
So, as someone who consciously strives to be body positive, knowing how much I struggle with these days, I figured that it would be a good idea to tell you what I do to feel less miserable.
- I drink more water than I have in the past week. I don’t do this to lose weight, I do it to cleanse my body. We often feel icky when we’re dehydrated, or just plain bloated. Water with lemon makes me feel particularly clean and more settled. It straight up feels like a cleaning detergent for your insides (don’t consume actual cleaning detergent pretty please).
- I get on my yoga mat and I stretch. This helps me feel closer to my body. It reminds me that my body is my home, and allows me to feel centered. I feel each muscle stretching and this usually calms my nerves.
- I do anything I can to keep from emotional eating that day. Water? Check. Coffee? Check. Buckets of tea? Yep. More importantly though, I never let myself go hungry because that’ll make me a million times more miserable. I strive to find a balance.
- I talk to a friend. To be more specific, I talk to a good friend. I even sit and talk to my mom. Find someone that cares about you and tell them how you feel. Even if they don’t have much to say, they will listen and this will allow you to let go of a bit of that negativity you’ve pent up.
- I remember that I’m able to alter my body. I can lose weight if I want to, and so can you. Want to gain weight? You can also do that. All we need to figure out is a healthy way to do so.
- I also remind myself that my body is capable of doing so many incredible things. I can walk, I can lift babies that I love, I can hold hands, I can give the best freaking hugs in the world. Thanks body!
- I look at body-positive individuals on the internet and I feed off their kick-ass energy. If I can’t feel good about my body at the moment, I’m happy that they can.
It’s so easy to feel worthless, but remember that this day too shall pass. You’re worthy of so much love, and I hope that you’ll eventually learn to shower yourself and your body with it.
Stay strong, stay lovely, keep that chin up.