10 Things I learned while living with my boyfriend

Moving in with a boyfriend at any age is a big milestone, but moving into your first “big girl” apartment, at 21, with your long distance boyfriend? That, my friends, was a leap and a half. I had just graduated from university, and a month later I found myself in a completely new city, signing the lease for a small studio apartment with the guy I’ve been in love with for years. We only got to live in that apartment for threeย months, but nevertheless, it was an amazing experience that taught me a lot about him, myself, and our relationship.

Here are 10 things I learned along the way:

  1. If you live with someone who is on a completely different sleep cycle than you are, make sure you opt for at least a one bedroom apartment. Our little studio was truly tiny, and my mornings were spent either trying to be as quiet as humanly possible, or waking Dylan up.
  2. I really need to work on my habit to clutter. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love cleaning, tidying, making my space feel nice, homey, and clean. Unfortunately, it seems like it’s impossible for me to take my jeans off and throw them anywhere but on the floor. I’m hoping to at least narrow my clutter into one pile so that we always have visible floor space (oops).
  3. I love cooking, both for Dylan and myself. I’ve never really had the opportunity to cook for other people before, but I really enjoyed creating meals that both of us would love.
  4. I cannot handle heat. Like, at all. I had never realized how dependent I am on air conditioning until Dylan started commenting on the fact that our apartment felt like a fridge at all times. No heat for me, please and thank you!
  5. I will wash dishes, as long as I don’t have to take out the trash. Ever.
  6. I am an old lady at heart. In bed by 9, asleep by 10:30.
  7. Along the way, I learned that I’m fairly responsible with money. We were always on top of our bills, and worked hard to make sure everything was going according to plan.
  8. I have the most loving and supportive boyfriend. I was on a diet called “Ideal Protein” while living with him, and while I won’t get into it in this post, I’m just going to say that it was a very restrictive diet, and he helped me push through it every step of the way.
  9. I will pick kayaking over going to the bars any day of the week.
  10. Last, and of course most embarassing, I am such a scaredy cat that I literally scream and hide my face in my pillow when something even remotely scary happens in a TV show. Imagine what happened when Dylan made me try and watch Hannibal!

Have you ever lived with a significant other? Let me know in the comments below ๐Ÿ™‚



  1. Four years now and still counting… I moved in my (now) husbands apartment only 6 months after our first date. Kind of too soon, but it didn’t make any sense to pay two rents when we were spending all of our time together in one of the both apartments. We changed 3 apartments and 2 countries since and we got married along that way, but we are both still in love with the idea of living together and building our own nest, even when we go on each others nerves… At least you have someone to fight with when you need to… ๐Ÿ˜€

  2. HI! Lovely blog!
    I have never lived with a s/o and i live on my own now, but living with my ex best friend and her dad, it really opened my eyes to a lot of things. Like how different we all are in the way we do things.
    I think being scared of things when you are first out of the nest is normal. I used to be scared of so much, like killing spiders and things, but you know. . . some one has to do it, lol!
    Great post, nice flow easy to read, thanks for sharing!


    1. Thank you for your lovely comment Monique! You’re right, it’s definitely a learning experience no matter who you move in with ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Hahaha, omg yes that’s absolutely me as well. I even freak out when it’s too windy and the windows make noises. (oops) ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. AWWWW your comment is SO sweet <3 Living alone is cool too, I did it quite a bit while I was in university. Of course, having someone take the trash out for you is a million times better ๐Ÿ™‚ I'm sure you'll stumble upon someone just as great <3

  3. This is such a relatable post for us. We have recently come out of being long distance ourselves and only started living together since May – it’s not quite alone, as were still under my family roof, but nevertheless experiences the living life together. Constantly in the same room, you have made such good points, thanks for sharing!

    Jessica & James

    1. I’m glad this resonated with you. It’s such an incredible moment when you finally get to close the distance, isn’t it? Unfortunately, we had to go back to distance for a little while, but we’re planning on making our way back to each other for good, sometime soon!
      Thanks for reading! x

  4. Lovely post! It’s very difficult living with another person, I’ve been living with my boyfriend for about 4 1/2 years now, we started staying over at our parents houses very early on and it just kind of became a permanent thing without us even speaking about it! We have had our own home (only for a year due to financial struggles!) and that was great. There always has to be a bit of give and take, but for me it’s always been worth it! I don’t know how I’d feel if I had to live alone again! I am an old lady too (ok I am 28, so that’s pretty old lol) but I love nothing more than getting into bed nice and early, I also like to get up early too!

    Em x
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    1. Hahhaha you’re only an old lady at heart, just like me ๐Ÿ™‚ I can’t wait until we can afford our own place, I’m sure that’ll be amazing.

      Thank you for your lovely comment ?

  5. I looooved this post! Having been living with my boyfriend for 10 months now I totally relate to the first one especially! He works shifts as a carer so we’re frequently creeping around eachother at 5am or coming home at midnight. Such a good post! xx

  6. I enjoyed this post! My boyfriend stays over at my Uni sometimes and we have learnt a lot from sharing such a small space. We are on different sleeping patterns sometimes so I can definitely relate to the first point LOL.

    1. It’s interesting, isn’t it? Hahah, the tight space does help in actually getting to know a person though ๐Ÿ™‚

      Thanks for your lovely comment!xx


  7. I really like the fact that your articles are concise and light, it is a very good quality in a blog.
    My experience living with my (also LDR) significant other was wonderful, we learned many things along the way so I am glad we got to live together for the amount of time we did (unfortunately we can not move in together for good for the moment) we will keep working it out though. ๐Ÿ˜€
    I wish you all the best with your own adventure!


    1. Thank you for all your sweet comments – it really means a lot to me! ๐Ÿ™‚ We unfortunately couldn’t keep living together because of my visa situation. I was in the US on a student visa and once that was up, I had to go home. We’re really hoping that we’ll close the distance sometime soon, we’re just not sure how yet.

      I wish you both so much love and happiness! Distance sucks, but I’m sure we’ll all beat it! xx


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